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Everyday wellbeing is about how we feel, think and behave. Nobody feels blissfully happy, thinks positive thoughts and behaves sensibly all the time.

However, if you are in a pretty good state of mind, it is generally much easier to enjoy life and cope with its challenges.

Here are our top 10 basic skills for gaining and maintaining good emotional wellbeing:

  1. Set yourself achievable goals
    Try writing down your goals for the day or think about learning a new skill.
  2. Be good to yourself
    Take notice of your achievements, however small and reward yourself.
  3. Believe in yourself
    Self-confidence is how we feel about our own abilities. Self-esteem is slightly different – it is the degree to which we value ourselves.
  4. Manage your time
    Tackle the most important things first and avoid spending valuable time on things outside of your control.
  5. Face and solve your problems
    We all have a tendency to avoid facing our problems but this can make the problem worse.  It can create new problems and it stops you getting on with your life and leads to more stress and tension.
  6. Keeping things in perspective
    There is always more than one way of seeing things. Look at your situation with an open mind and be realistic about what you can manage.
  7. Learning to relax
    Relaxation exercises will give you more energy, decrease anxiety and irritability and reduce pains due to tense muscles. Make it part of your daily routine.
  8. Expressing your feelings
    Hiding or holding back our feelings can cause tensions that affect our physical and mental health. Express your feelings to help recover from hurtful experiences or help other people to understand what is going on inside you.
  9. Managing your diet
    The foods you eat can play an important part in the way you feel, physically and mentally. Too much sugar, coffee or salt can cause tension and irritability, and alcohol is a depressant. For general wellbeing the secret is a balanced diet.
  10. Exercise
    Regular exercise is good for us in many ways. It can increase our confidence and self-esteem, stimulate “feel good” chemicals in our bodies, provide an outlet for tension and frustration, relieve anxiety, help us sleep better and prevent some physical illnesses. Choose a sport or exercise you enjoy. If you have concerns about your health or fitness speak to your GP.

It is important to recognise the signs of anxiety or depression early so that you can take action before the condition becomes serious or prolonged.